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It’s OK to feel angry or stressed out sometimes, but how can you calm down when you’re a child? Calm-down strategies can be part of the solution and I have some ideas to help get you started.
Be sure to keep reading this post to find some more tips on how to use calming strategies much more effectively.
There is also a free handout that you can print out with these calm-down strategies. Scroll down to the bottom of this post to sign-up to get the free download.
25 Calming Strategies for Kids
It’s always a good idea to have a list of ideas to pull from. Some children will respond better to certain activities than others. And depending on the stressor or situation, some calming strategies may be easier to implement than others.
Also, giving children a choice will help them with self-regulation, when they can take ownership over how to help their body “calm down”.
Here are some ideas to help get you started:
1 || Count to 10
2 || Take deep breaths
3 || Read a book
4 || Color or draw
5 || Blow bubbles
6 || Drink water
7 || Give a bear hug
8 || Go for a walk
9 || Listen to music
10 || Do a puzzle
11 || Take a break
12 || Draw with chalk
13 || Swing
14 || Write in a journal
15 || Talk to someone
16 || Chew gum
17 || Use positive self-talk
18 || Create a vision board
19 || Sing out loud
20 || Jump rope
21 || Play with a pet
22 || Play with play dough
23 || Go to a quiet place
24 || Take a bubble bath
25 || Imagine a bubble. Fill it with a worry and pop it.
What are calm-down strategies?
Calm-down activities are a way to help bring the nervous system that is in a fight, flight or flee mode back into homeostasis, or a resting state.
“When kids are overwhelmed by feelings, the emotional side of the brain isn’t communicating with the rational side, which normally regulates emotions and plans the best way to deal with a situation.” (Giller, ChildMind).
Using these activities helps to relax the brain and encourage a child, or adult, to the place of realizing they are not in danger.
In order for calm-down strategies (or emotional regulation strategies) to work, we must first focus on relationships and co-regulate with the child.
It also includes setting up the environment for success with consistent routines and places for a child to practice self-regulation, or to use during times of dysregulation.
What are effective calming strategies?
Calming strategies are ones that will help a child come out of dysregulation and enter back into regulation. Many calming activities include heavy work or “proprioceptive input”, which can have a calming effect on many children.
What is proprioceptive input? It is input through the muscles and joints that helps us to know where our bodies are and how they are moving. You can read more about proprioceptive input in my post here.
It is important to note that some proprioceptive activities may have an alerting effect on a child. If your child is already in a state of high alert due to dysregulation, then it is important to find proprioceptive input and activities that have a calming effect on them. It is not a one-size-fits-all scenario. It will take some time, patience, and trial and error to find the best activities.
And the types of activities that work one time may not be as effective the next time. This is why it is a good idea to have a list of activities to pull from.
Things like breathing exercises, mindfulness, meditation, and other relaxation techniques can also help a child feel more in control of the situation. Plus, these activities can help improve their mood and be an effective way to de-escalate meltdowns and tantrums.
When to Use Calm-Down Strategies
These types of activities are helpful for children who may be dealing with anxiety, trauma, tension, or upset by a change in the environment or transitions. What is great about calming strategies is that they can be used at home, in the classroom, or even out in different situations in the community.
These triggers can build up over the day, so the stress response you are seeing right now may be from something that happened at home, something that happened earlier in the day, or even the day before.
Keeping a trigger log along with what types of calm-down strategies seem to be helpful after dysregulation can be helpful for you to find common triggers. Then you can build your self-regulation routines and environment to help support that child or student when you know a trigger is likely.
This, of course, does not mean you can plan for all triggers or dysregulation. But it does give you tools that you can pull from and give you a head start to helping your child or student self-regulate.
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